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What is a letter of wishes, and do you need one?
A letter of wishes is a private note that goes with your will. It tells your executors and trustees what you would like them to do, and why, without tying their hands in law.
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Why not put it all in the will?
Once probate is granted, your will becomes a public document and anyone can ask for a copy. A letter of wishes is kept separate, so it stays private. It is also easy to change, because it does not need to be witnessed.
What people put in it
- Funeral wishes. A will is often read after the funeral, so a separate note reaches your family sooner.
- Personal items. Who should have a watch, a ring or a painting.
- Guidance for trustees. How to use their discretion, for example when a young beneficiary should receive money.
- Hopes for your children. Schooling, upbringing and who they should stay close to.
- Your reasons. Why you split the estate the way you did, which can prevent arguments.
- Where things are. Accounts, documents and online logins.
Things to remember
- It is not legally binding. Trustees should take it into account but can decide differently.
- Sign and date it, and keep it with your will.
- Tell your executors where it is.
- Review it when your circumstances change, and make sure it does not contradict your will.
Quick answers
Common questions
Is a letter of wishes legally binding?
No. It guides your executors and trustees but they are not legally bound to follow it.
Does a letter of wishes need to be witnessed?
No. It helps to sign and date it so it is clear which version is the latest.
Where should I keep it?
Keep it with your will and tell your executors where to find it. Do not rely on it being found only after the funeral.
Keep reading
Related guides
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